Happy International Fisting Day!

Sprung out of attempted censorship, International Fisting Day is all about shedding light on an activity that is fun for some, scary to others, and definitely a topic that doesn’t get much airplay.

So today we’re boosting that airplay and talking about fisting!

Fisting falls under the category of hand sex – using the fingers, hands and fists to fuck with – and you can do it vaginally or anally.  It’s a super safe way to have sex (zero risk of pregnancy and STI transmission), and doesn’t require anyone to maintain an erection, which is a selling point for some people.  This is an activity that takes some warm up; even if you’re an experienced player, so be prepared to make a night (or two) of it.

My one single beef with fisting is that it’s often a goal focused activity for people.  Much like some only consider sex “successful” if an orgasm happens, some people only consider fisting “successful” if you get the entire fist in.  Phooey on that, says I.  Hand sex, just like any other type of sex, is just as much about the journey and the pleasure that comes with that journey rather than any fixed point.  Feel free to rename this act to something less goal focused if it helps you (me?  I like vaginal spluenking), and take a moment with your partner (or partners) to affirm that this is about exploration and pleasure – not meeting a goal.

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Whether you’re a fisting veteran or new to this particular sex act, today is an awesome day to learn more!  Here are some places around the web that you can do that:


Happy explorations – and don’t forget the lube!

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